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I met my wife in college and she was soon pregnant after we graduated. We moved in together and it was decided that she will not look for a job until she after she gave birth.<\/p>\n
Our daughter was born and my wife was a SAHM for the first two years. We had a lot of fight about the chore splitting. I was very overwhelmed coming home and having to do a ton of chores after work and also spend time with our daughter . This has gotten worse as our daughter has gotten older and is a little tornado<\/p>\n
The biggest issue was she wouldn\u2019t pick up at all especially in the kitchen. That meant I would come home clean the kitchen, cook and then clean the kitchen again. The have to go around and clean up the days activities.<\/p>\n
We argued about this a lot and her stance was she watches our kid all day long so I can clean up more when I get home. In the end I gave in and we made an official chore chart.<\/p>\n
Her- watch kid, do laundry and grocery shopping, appointments<\/p>\n
Me- dinner, everyday cleaning ( whipping down counter, picking up toys, sweeping, etc.) , trash, meal prep and nighttime routine ( bath etc.)<\/p>\n
In the summer, my company informed me that I would be let go around Thanksgiving. We talked in over and my wife found a job and would be the main breadwinner for the time being. I was to watch our daughter and I am in an online master program.<\/p>\n
At the moment I am watching our daughter and doing my master program. I personally have now been having any issues but my wife is.<\/p>\n
She hates having to come home and do chores and clean up after us. I actually leave it cleaner than what she has left me. ( I put dishes in the dishwasher throughout the day)<\/p>\n
We have been arguing about this constantly. She thinks it is unfair she has to do chores after working all day and me pointing out this this literally what I have done for the past two years and keep pointing at the chore chart<\/p>\n
She says she is the breadwinner now and I shouldn\u2019t have to do this and I pointed out I was the breadwinner before to begin with and did this all. That I am watching our daughter and doing a program.<\/p>\n
She claims I am being unfair, since I refuse to change the chore chart because it is literally what I have done for two years.<\/p>\n
My friend have opinions on this so I need a outsider opinion<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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