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If you\u2019ve ever wondered why I vanished from the screen when the spotlight was brightest, the answer is simpler than the Hollywood myths suggest. Showbiz was in my blood from the start\u2014I was born in New York City on July 16, 1963, to Lily and Joseph Cates. My father was a Broadway producer and a television pioneer, and my uncle Gilbert produced the Academy Awards. I grew up in a world where the industry was just the family business, and by the age of ten, I was already navigating the world of professional modeling.
\nAs a teenager, I found myself achieving what many would call unprecedented success. I was a regular at Studio 54, appearing on magazine covers before I was even old enough to drive. But I quickly grew to dislike the industry. It didn\u2019t teach me anything; it was just the same thing over and over. After a while, I did it solely for the money. I needed something more, and acting felt like the next logical step, though the transition wasn\u2019t without its challenges.<\/p>\n
My first major role was in the 1982 film Paradise, a production designed to capitalize on the \u201cteensploitation\u201d market of the era. I was still a teenager when the script called for explicit nudity. I remember asking my father, \u201cShould I do this?\u201d He looked at me and asked how I could even question a lead role in a feature film. When I brought up the nudity, he simply asked, \u201cWhat are you going to do, model for the rest of your life? What are you so hung up on nudity for?\u201d That was all the nudge I needed, so I took the part.<\/p>\n
Paradise didn\u2019t set the world on fire, but later that same year, everything changed with Fast Times at Ridgemont High. I was only eighteen when I played the \u201cmature\u201d Linda Barrett. People still talk about the red bikini and that pool scene today. Unlike my experience with Paradise, shooting that scene was actually fun. It felt very in character and justified for the story we were telling. Suddenly, I wasn\u2019t just a model; I was a household name.<\/p>\n
The roles followed quickly. I starred in Private School, then the 1984 miniseries Lace, where I delivered that infamous line\u2014\u201dIncidentally, which one of you bitches is my mother?\u201d\u2014that seemed to echo everywhere. That same year, I played Kate Beringer in Joe Dante\u2019s Gremlins. It became one of the biggest hits of my career, even with my character\u2019s dark monologue about why she hated Christmas. I kept working throughout the late \u201980s and early \u201990s in films like Bright Lights, Big City, Shag, and Drop Dead Fred.<\/p>\n
But while my career was peaking, my personal life was shifting. I met Kevin Kline in 1982 at an audition for The Big Chill. I didn\u2019t get the part\u2014Meg Tilly did\u2014but I walked away with a connection that I couldn\u2019t ignore. We reconnected a couple of years later at New York\u2019s Public Theater. I was studying acting, and he was performing. Despite our sixteen-year age difference, something just clicked. Kevin later told people he thought I was \u201ctoo happy\u201d and \u201ctoo enthusiastic about life\u201d for him, but we married in 1989 and decided to build our life in New York, far from the pressures of Los Angeles.<\/p>\n
When our son Owen was born in 1991, and our daughter Greta followed in 1994, my priorities transformed completely. Kevin and I had a pact: we agreed to alternate our work schedules so that one of us was always home with the children. But whenever it was my turn to take a role, I found myself choosing to stay home instead. I loved acting while I was doing it, but I wasn\u2019t driven by it the way Kevin was. My family was my top priority, and the scrutiny of Hollywood didn\u2019t fit the low-key lifestyle I wanted for my kids.<\/p>\n
My last starring role was in the 1994 biopic Princess Caraboo, where I played a faux-royal alongside Kevin. After that, I effectively retired. I did step back in front of the camera once more in 2001 for The Anniversary Party, but that was strictly a favor for my best friend and Fast Times castmate, Jennifer Jason Leigh. Aside from some voice work for a Gremlins character in a video game years later, I stayed away from the set.<\/p>\n
In 2005, I finally fulfilled a lifelong dream that had nothing to do with scripts or cameras. I opened a boutique called Blue Tree on Madison Avenue. I always wanted to have a general store\u2014a place with a surprise around every turn. It\u2019s my \u201cmom-and-pop store without the pop,\u201d filled with antiques, jewelry, books, and vintage LPs. I\u2019m often there at the register myself. Sometimes shoppers stare and tell me I look like Phoebe Cates, and I just smile and tell them, \u201cI get that a lot.\u201d<\/p>\n
Today, Kevin and I have been married for over thirty-five years. Our secret is simple: we didn\u2019t live in Hollywood, and we didn\u2019t treat our lives like a production. Our children have grown into their own as artists, and I\u2019ve found a different kind of fulfillment. Looking back at the girl in the red bikini, I\u2019m grateful for the path that led me here\u2014to a quiet life in the city, a shop of my own, and the family that always came first.<\/p>\n
The legacy of an 80\u2019s icon<\/p>\n
This video provides a visual retrospective of Phoebe Cates\u2019 career and explores the specific reasons she decided to leave the spotlight for a more private life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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